Who needs a coach?

Anyone with a question worth answering, especially if that question is one of these:

Who am I?
Who is the right person for me?
Why am I struggling to be happy?
Why do we always struggle to communicate?
What is wrong with me?
What is wrong with us?
How am I going to solve this?

You might think of a coach as another set of eyes on your situation. But you shouldn’t just trust your story to anyone. And you shouldn’t talk to just anyone about your personal problems and expect to get an answer that is right for you.

Would you take your car to be fixed by someone who doesn’t know cars?
Would you get your hair cut by the first person you see holding a pair of scissors?
Would you trust your tax return to some random person you met on the street just because he “looks like an accountant?”

I don’t think you should trust just anyone to help you solve or understand your personal struggles, either.

Abound offers a free 30 minute consultation, and we can together figure out the next best move is for you.

What is a coach?

A coach is a person who works with you to help you see things you aren’t able to see on your own.

A good coach will ask deep and effective questions, listen well, and help you to put the many pieces of your story together in a way that makes sense.

A coach will also walk with you as you take the many new insights about yourself and others and make something new with your life, gifts, and relationships.

Perhaps most importantly, a good coach will be trustworthy. And a good coach will keep what we talk about in confidence, so that you feel safe working with them.

What is relational coaching?

Relational coaching is closely related to relational thinking. There are many schools of thought that assume that the “isolated individual” is an approach to life that works. Relational coaching and thinking assumes the opposite.

You are always-already in relationship. Just as a plant cannot live without sunlight and air exchange, you cannot live without some form of connection to others.

But some ways of connecting are more effective than others.

Relational coaching looks at the bigger picture – the relational system you inhabit. That system could be your marriage, your family, your team, your workforce, your company, your church – you name it.

Abound does offer one-on-one coaching sessions – but this always-already in relationship reality is constantly kept in mind. The picture is bigger than you think. What might you be missing?

I'm not in a conflict…am I?

What do you mean by “conflict”? You need to start with this question.

Most people, in my experience, when they hear the word conflict, think of something huge, like “Conflict in the Middle East,” or a combat zone involving guns, tanks, etc.

Conflict does not have to be so dramatic in order to really be present in your life.

Conflict is present wherever personal disconnection is present. You may never have exchanged angry words with the person with whom you are in conflict. You may just “not like them,” and not be able to explain exactly why.

Curiosity is essential to understanding how conflict is showing up in your life.

Most people don’t even realize they are in an energy and happiness-sapping conflict until they engage in our coaching or mediation process.

So are you in a conflict? Let’s see.

What is the difference between coaching and counseling?

Coaching doesn’t diagnose you. Coaching doesn’t just recommend medication or assume being on meds will solve your problem. Coaching also doesn’t assume you are showing up because something is wrong with you.

To be fair, neither does all counseling. But coaching, from the Abound perspective, is more holistic than most counseling approaches.

What does holistic mean? It means considerate of the whole. You are more than your brain. You are more than your body. You are more than your thoughts and emotions.

But you are not less than these.

Abound coaching assumes that all of these “parts” of who we are matter. That is why you will be assessed and approached in a way that takes all of these “parts” seriously.

Another difference between coaching and counseling is the frequency. Most counseling takes place for one hour, once or twice a week.

Abound offers flexible planning, ranging from the traditional one-hour session to deep intensive coaching or mediation sessions lasting many hours over several days.

What is the advantage of such an approach?

Coaching is tailored to you, rather than your growth and progress having to be smashed into a one-hour-a-week box that may not be the best fit for you.

I work with you, your schedule, your story and your needs to determine what is the best fit for maximizing your growth and potential.

Why should I talk to you instead of just going to a lawyer and suing?

here are a number of reasons to prefer coaching and mediation over legal action, especially as a starting point.

You may be struggling with another person. There may be money or personal property at stake. You may need to go to a lawyer to settle these material issues.

But going to a lawyer and getting your material issues resolved will almost certainly leave personal issues unresolved. And, in most cases, the very act of taking someone to court damages the relationship significantly or permanently, making future communication futile and frustrating .

Now, let me be clear. This does not mean you should never talk to or work with a lawyer. I am simply saying that you should not start there.

You are most likely to engage an attorney to handle a personal conflict when you believe there is nothing more to be done – that calling the lawyer is the only way to solve your problem with this person. But there could be another way. Are you sure you’re making the right decision?

Another reason to start elsewhere. Lawsuits are expensive.

The average divorce in America costs $15,000.
The typical 2-3 day coaching process with Abound runs around $3,000.
That is 1/5 of what going straight to an attorney will run you.
And you will have a written agreement at the end of the process that can be taken to your attorney and used to make legal documents that are binding.

But let me be clear – I am not anti-lawyer or anti-court!
In fact, I will work with and alongside your attorney to help you effectively handle all the personal dynamics of your legal action. Remember, you are suing another person, not just “the defendant.”

Have you tried another way?
Have you exhausted all of your options?
Do you know what your options are?

Let’s find out.

What makes you qualified to do coaching work?
I am trained as both a Philosopher and as a Counselor. I have over 5 years experience doing coaching, reconciliation and mediation work. I have Master’s Degrees in both Philosophy and Counseling. I am a Certified Christian Conciliator through the Institute for Christian Conciliation, a branch of Peacemaker Ministries. I am a Registered Mental Health Intern (RMHI#15052) with the State of FL. I love what I do. And people like working with me.