Reason trumps method. I recently learned this from a Tony Robbins video about goal setting. It is much harder to push yourself than it is to be pulled toward something. Pushing yourself has to do with willpower. But being pulled towards something else is what happens when you have a “why.” Your “why” is your reason for doing what you are doing.
Robbins says “reasons come first. Answers come second.” We often want to know how to do something before we even try. This approach sounds practical. It sounds sensible. But too often it doesn’t work. It is too easy to get so bogged down in how something will work out that we give up before we even try to accomplish it. But we learn by trying, right? How did you learn to walk?
What is the reason you get up in the morning? We’ve all heard of the old distinction between saying “I have to go to work” and “I get to go.” I’m not really pounding that, here. There will always be times you don’t want to work. But if you find yourself only thinking of what you want to do and feeling bad about that, it could be that you’ve lost sight of your “why.”
Sometimes just asking the question can bring pain. Sometimes asking “why am I doing this?” raises a deeper question : “what am I here for?”
Is Your Vision Clear?
Having a clear vision is essential. Clear vision is necessary for jobs, creative projects, political movements, and relationships. If you don’t start with your “why,” you might find yourself getting bogged down in the “what” so much that you give up, feeling dejected and hopeless.
In the next post, I’ll unpack this a bit more, and I’ll share a strategy for effective planning. This is NOT just another New Year’s Resolution scheme. We are going deeper than that! See you on the next post.